The Dad Playbook: Lessons Every Father Needs

In Episode 3, we break down what we call The Dad Playbook - the lessons, mindset shifts, and real-life strategies men wish they were taught long before becoming fathers.

From providing and protecting to navigating relationships, mental health, discipline, consistency, and showing up for your kids even when life is heavy… this episode is filled with the conversations we didn’t grow up hearing enough.

We talk about:
• The values every father needs
• How to parent with intention
• Leading with patience, presence, and purpose
• Breaking generational habits
• What men really struggle with but rarely say
• How to build your “fatherhood foundation”
• Why fatherhood doesn’t come with a manual - but it should come with a playbook

This episode is honest, reflective, and packed with the wisdom today’s fathers AND future fathers need.

📌 Connect with Ain’t No Manual for more real fatherhood conversations.
Because none of us were given a blueprint.

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:08

And we are back better than ever. Hey, we ain't never left. Ain't no manual podcast. We're here to talk today. The dad playbook that never existed. Never exist. Never.

SPEAKER_01: 0:19

Never was there. Ain't wasn't there. Thought it was never.

SPEAKER_00: 0:21

We sold so much stuff over the years.

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Yeah.

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Half of it ain't work, right?

SPEAKER_01: 0:27

It still ain't working. Yeah. Still ain't working.

SPEAKER_00: 0:28

It probably ain't gonna work. We got a story that we could tell about our life. We could write some books, but it still is not a playbook to how this stuff goes, man. Yeah. So we gotta jump right into it. First of all, we doing our fit check. Fit check? What you got? What you looking like, bro? So I'm back with some Jordans. Another pair. I don't even know which number this is. But I love them. They Jays. They're not my favorite, but. Hey, whatever. I like that. That's why he got it. That's why he got it. My daughter sprayed uh baby powder all over him, but I'm just gonna. It's character, bro. That's what you call character. Some ripped up jeans to show that I'm still young. Got some niche on. And you gotta read the shirt. No one is illegal on stolen land. I just gotta put that out there. I don't need to elaborate. I feel tough. I like that. I like that subtle.

SPEAKER_02: 1:15

I'm going back with my grandpa uh new balances. We're going with uh California hoodie, LA hat. Shout out to LA. I love it. You go so we keep it comfortable.

SPEAKER_01: 1:25

You gotta tell them, you know, grandpa keep it comfortable. Grandpa keep it real real smooth. But I feel good. So that's what it's like. You look good, bro.

SPEAKER_00: 1:31

Thank you, brother. There you go.

SPEAKER_01: 1:32

Look at y'all. Brother. You know me. Uh something smooth, Ramiro's. You know, this is more my comfortable speed right here. You know, I feel like I'm working on clouds and I wear these. Uh just a little nicky jumpsuit. You know me, real smooth, real cool, real coordinated. Okay. Man, the best thing I've ever put on my feet, bro.

SPEAKER_00: 1:49

I got a pair of the rare ones. I got a best thing I ever put on my feet. They clean though.

SPEAKER_01: 1:53

Man, I appreciate that.

SPEAKER_00: 1:54

You know, some real light for y'all today. Right. So we backing clean. You see us? Some some young some young fathers doing our thing. Yeah, you know. But let's jump back into it. So we're talking about this playbook. We've been told over the years that it's so much you gotta go by, so much you gotta do. Right. I remember the uh, I forget what you call them, but my my grandparents used to say if you you put a garlic in their shoe when they say that ass. Come on, the old spot stuff we've heard. Country. That just country. Yeah, that's what it is. Country as hell. Let's talk about some of that stuff though.

SPEAKER_01: 2:25

I get I get this out here real early. Like growing up, I always thought like dad gets to eat first. Like when it was dinner time, right? Yeah. Pops eat first, pops. I'm a man with that. Pops get the big piece of chicken. I'm gonna be here with that. Kids eat first right here now, bro.

SPEAKER_03: 2:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01: 2:40

Like I'm I'm my kids get the plate first before I even get I get the leftovers. Hopefully, something there when I get back. I don't like that. Because my kids eat first. But when I was growing up, I thought it was a dad get the plate. I eat first. You eat first? Oh, I'm gonna eat first. See, look at you.

SPEAKER_00: 2:54

I think we need to assert our dominance. Like, is that something that is required?

SPEAKER_02: 2:57

That ain't about dominance, or it's not necessarily required. It's just more of a thing. Well, I mean, if I'm providing for family, why wouldn't I eat for food?

SPEAKER_00: 3:08

But see, that just means you got that understanding there. Absolutely. We don't. Yeah, that's what I'm and you started off by saying what works for you may not work for you. So what's the playbook? What what what do you you just came naturally? Or do you think it's something you had to do to get to it?

SPEAKER_02: 3:22

You just go in there and be like, hey, look. I mean, I think that's just high roll. You know what I'm saying? Like, that's just that's just me. Like, I just believe that, hey, I mean, I, you know, I might not look like I eat the big piece of chicken. But hey, see, it's hit or miss for me. I need that.

SPEAKER_00: 3:37

One thing I'll get different meals. Like, my wife will provide something different, she'll cook a whole different thing for me. But also on the flip side, I like to cook. So half of the time I'll cook. That's real. And I'm the last one to eat. Yeah. But it better be some damn food there for the five.

SPEAKER_02: 3:49

I'm not saying going into traditional roles. I think that things, you know, I think men should cook.

SPEAKER_00: 3:56

Yeah, yeah, I cook. I cook. But you also think you should get the first meal though, right? That's law. That's law.

SPEAKER_01: 4:01

So look, like so when you go to like uh the family reuse the family dinner, what's the first thing they say? Kids come eat.

SPEAKER_03: 4:09

Yeah, right.

SPEAKER_02: 4:10

Yeah, but I see I see the women making plates for their husbands too, though. Okay. Ah, I got you. That's what I see. That's what I see at the barbecue. You want something different. I never even thought too much into the city. My wife goes, she asked me what I want. She don't even ask me what I want, she just brings me a plate. You know, so I don't mind kids eating first. So what's some other myth? You know, myth is that people are going to help you when you have a kid. Oh, yeah. Let's go to that. Because all these people are gonna tell you what they're gonna do. And they ain't there. And they not gonna they not gonna keep them. Because they have lives to live. It's not their responsibility, but a lot of things. Tell yourself, y'all young dads, don't think everybody's about to help you, man. You might have a hundred family members and one or two might step up and and really be there for you. Yeah, facts. So you gotta make a decision, you know, with with having a family as you and whoever you're having it with, without outside. See, I already knew that.

SPEAKER_00: 5:10

My mom let me know ahead of time. She ain't coming to the hospital. She's gonna be there in emergencies. But you ain't doing all that extra. I knew that. Ain't no more big mamas no more.

SPEAKER_02: 5:19

Like people had them conversation. That's something I mean. I mean, I'm a I'm a 39-year-old grandpa. I ain't no old grandpa or papa.

SPEAKER_01: 5:26

I'll tell you on the flip side of that, everybody thinks they know how to raise a kid or want to tell you how to raise it. Yeah. And ain't even got one. Or or they're not gonna be a kid.

SPEAKER_02: 5:36

Or they kids, or they kids. A little a little rough around the edge. Like, they ain't really doing it.

SPEAKER_01: 5:42

You see what your son does.

SPEAKER_00: 5:44

I don't want no information from you, big dog. Exactly. That's real, man. Yeah, man. It's tough out there. Any other myths? Like, what else did you think was gonna happen when you had these children? I did believe in a village, though. I thought a village was gonna be there. Ain't no village, man. Ain't no such thing in that. But I think that's part of what we need to bring back, bring back that awareness that it ain't what it used to be, but it still can be. We can get back to that, right? Yeah, yeah. Yeah, but we talked about it. Because we talked about that before.

SPEAKER_01: 6:09

Like uh our dads, you know, how it was a little different raising. You know, it was a village. Everybody, the neighbor was gonna make sure the lights came on, you going home. Now the neighbor don't give them what's going on. Nah. Nah, they work by deals, we keep it moving. It's a different time.

SPEAKER_00: 6:24

Different time, man. No more community. So, what about the advice? Not a myth, but what about advice? What's some advice you got that was totally the opposite of what really goes on?

SPEAKER_02: 6:34

Not totally opposite. I'm gonna go, I'm gonna go the other way with it. I I did get some good advice too. What's that? Never promise your kids anything.

SPEAKER_00: 6:43

I can't I struggle with that.

SPEAKER_02: 6:45

No, so you say, I see what I can do. Yeah, I'm gonna try my best. I'm gonna try my best, yeah. But once you lay down that promise, that kid is is is attached to that promise. Yeah. And you don't wanna ruin your credibility with your kid.

SPEAKER_00: 6:59

That's some good advice, but I struggle with that. Like, I just to get them out of my face, I can't say. But even though you know you're gonna do it, yeah, we don't know what tomorrow holds. You never know what can happen. But it's some good advice to try to stick to it, because I know I'm guilty of it. Like, I am too. I am too. I want this, I want candy. All right, get out of my face. Yeah, I get it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01: 7:18

But then when you get somewhere, they're gonna be like, you told me you was gonna get me.

SPEAKER_02: 7:21

Right. You know what I'm saying? But see, it's more so on big things, large-scale things. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Little stuff, I'm gonna get you candy at the store. Is that basic. That's something you, you know, I got you. Yeah, yeah. But when they say they want a a car when they turn a car or a pony or whatever it is that these kids want these days, iPhone, yeah, 16 or whatever. It's different, yeah. It's different. It's a different thing. You might want to say, I see what I can do. And then you want to put it back on them too, because you want them to be able to earn that. Yeah. So you say, well, what are you doing? And that might be a whole nother conversation.

SPEAKER_00: 7:54

You know what I hate to hear? Everywhere I go, I take my kids with them. Everybody, oh, you kids so sweet, but then they say this thing. Just love on your kids. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And I'm like, what does that mean? Like, and I get frustrated. Like, I can't show it, but it's like, what do you mean, love on your kids? Like, I'm loving on my kids, I'm doing this, I'm doing that. I'm making sure they got food on the table, clothes on their back. Like, what does it mean? You're not telling me nothing when you say love on your kids.

SPEAKER_02: 8:20

But I did I think it's it's different for everybody. Yeah, it's different methods of loving someone. But that's so good. You got tough you got your tough love when you got to really hold them accountable, have them hold themselves accountable. You got loving on them with just hearing their perspective. You got loving on them, just they might just need a hug. Give them a hug.

SPEAKER_00: 8:39

So, what is y'all saying on tough on gentle parenting? I keep hearing this word thrown around. I don't know what that means. I don't know what that means, bro. I hear it. I don't know. I hear it.

SPEAKER_01: 8:47

I've been explained what it is.

SPEAKER_00: 8:49

I don't believe in that.

SPEAKER_02: 8:50

Are y'all whooping or no?

SPEAKER_01: 8:51

Oh, I'm oh yeah. Oh, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 8:53

Oh, dang, I see your eyes light up. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 8:55

They got excited. Like, I ain't like pulling extension cords and throwing stuff at my kids. I don't believe in none of that. And I don't want to go to jail. But I do believe you gotta put your hand to them. Like, I mean, it ain't aggressive. I like how you pat it. Yes, like this. No, no, no. But nah, for real, I believe in touching your kid, like tapping your kid, like you out of line. You gotta feel that I will. It gotta be a constant. I'm stronger than you.

SPEAKER_02: 9:22

Listen, man, I I heard somebody say one time, if you if you treat your kid like an adult, they're gonna treat you like a kid. So with that being said, hey man, you can't be able to do that. I got it's something. I got knowledge, man.

SPEAKER_00: 9:34

Knowledge, man. Young knowledge, man. I'm real real beacon. I need real beacon. Yeah, man. I never heard that one.

SPEAKER_02: 9:40

We doing it.

SPEAKER_00: 9:41

I never heard of that one. You never heard that? Nah, I never heard of that one.

SPEAKER_02: 9:43

Treat your kids like an adult, they're gonna treat you like a kid. So you gotta always have a standard of you can be their friend. I'm I'm a young pet, you're a young parent, and you get to that level where y'all the same height and it seems like y'all the same age, but you're not, though. You gotta always establish that. Nah, I'm your daddy. I'm grown. I'm yeah, I'm grown, grown.

SPEAKER_00: 10:00

My three-year-old got a smart ass mouth. Like she grew off on me all the time. Three, bro. Like, but she got smart mouth, and it it makes sense. It's not like she's a she kind of chumped me off the other day, too. She be going off on me, dog. I don't know how to feel about that.

SPEAKER_02: 10:13

It ain't a feel, you just gotta get her to find a different ways to express herself. That's my 11 year old.

SPEAKER_00: 10:18

I'll be stuck. She says something and I don't have nothing else to say.

SPEAKER_02: 10:20

Yeah, it's kind of it's it's really impressive sometimes. Yeah, it is.

SPEAKER_00: 10:23

That's what it is.

SPEAKER_01: 10:24

It's not really it's a it's a real beef in my house, like a real beef between my wife and my daughter. They're the same person, bro. How are they daughters? She's 11. Uh the same person. That's not that. That's like they beef more than anybody I've ever seen in my life. It's like a real Tupac Biggie situation going on in my home, bro.

SPEAKER_00: 10:42

And they say daughters clash a lot with that.

SPEAKER_02: 10:44

They clash with the mother. I I've I'm I'm I've experienced that. Yeah with my daughter.

SPEAKER_00: 10:49

16 year old for me.

SPEAKER_02: 10:50

You know, but it's gonna happen, like you say, when you when you when you the same.

SPEAKER_01: 10:56

Yeah, we the same, bro. Same same person.

SPEAKER_00: 10:59

So with all with all the the experience that we have, I want to hear some advice that you want to give out. That you think is new age, like something you've been doing as a father is probably different than most people do.

SPEAKER_01: 11:11

Well, I wouldn't say mine is different, but just kind of some advice that I've I've learned, especially having multiple kids. Like, they're all different. Like you ain't gonna be able to raise them the same, you ain't gonna be able to talk to them the same, you ain't gonna be able to coach them the same. Okay, you know what I'm saying? They're just all different. You gotta kinda navigate them different ways and kind of deal with them differently. You know what I'm saying? Like my oldest might react to me cussing them out, but my youngest won't. You know what I'm saying? So it just they just all is they're different. You gotta figure out how to tap into, you know, what you want to get from them or get out of them.

SPEAKER_00: 11:46

Cause you got you just it just you can't all you can't you can raise them the same, but you can't almost like you better be careful with that child you say don't react when you cuss him out. Like he plotting. Yeah, you see what I'm saying? He got some of his.

SPEAKER_01: 11:59

Well, he'll shut down. Like my bedroom door. Like my youngest son, like you cuss him out, he's gonna shut down on you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But my two oldest, like you cuss him out, they like, all right, like now I got something for you now. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, like that almost switch hit a switch for them, like, all right. So now you you got on me, now I'm finna finna show you, or I'm finna hit that level now.

SPEAKER_02: 12:18

I think I think what I've learned is that kids, different kids speak different languages. Okay, so I got two kids, and they're they're different. My son, 21. He was more like kind of really, really book smart and just nothing, he had no problems in school. Um my daughter is more of the creative type. Yeah, she likes to draw, she likes music, you know, things of that nature. So to get through to him, I might have to speak one language and then to get through to her, I might have to speak more artistic. Yeah. Find interest in what she likes. Yep. Because that's what she's gonna respond to. Yep. So I can't speak to them in the same way. Yeah. Because they're not gonna receive the message in the same way. Right. So that's what I've learned about just communicating.

SPEAKER_00: 13:09

See, one of the hardest things for me, I got a whole bunch of them, too many of them. But what I've learned is every child is really jealous of the other one. Not in a bad way, not in a way that's like, oh, I'm gonna hurt this child or sabotage this child. But every last one of them is jealous to a certain extent. And I can't say I'm gonna give every child the same thing. You can't do that. I don't think it's possible. It's not reasonable, yeah. But you gotta find a way to say, hey, either if it's through explanation or just help them to understand that what I'm doing for this child, I either did for you for you when you were younger, or it's a reason I'm doing this with this child, but I'm gonna do something different for you. So, but don't take that for granted. Don't think they're gonna understand it, or that jealousy just goes away with the wind. Like they're paying attention and they're seeing stuff and they're internalizing that. Right. So I always, you know, if I take, because when we travel, a lot of times all the kids can't go. Right. But I gotta explain to the other kids. You just can't take eight, you know, I'm taking them because you're in school or this else is going on. But I got you. Right. Like I'm gonna do X, Y, Z for you. Yeah, but just don't take it for granted. That's the best advice I can. These kids are watching each other. Yeah. If you got a single, if you just got one child, I ain't got no answer for you. Like, yeah, ain't no manual for that one. Yeah, ain't no manual for that one at all. But that's something I learned I had to pay attention to, man.

SPEAKER_02: 14:29

I get that. And to kind of touch on that before you go ahead, go ahead, go ahead.

SPEAKER_01: 14:32

Like, my oldest, like, he'll like even my two oldest, they'll say, You'll never let us get away with that. Like, when we letting a daughter get away, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, but hey, yo, I was 24, 25 when y'all was different. It was different. Like my energy was different. I was like your little brother, you know what I'm saying? I was still like I was still figuring out. Right. Like, so now that I got another one and she's 10 years younger than y'all, yeah, I'm a little different with her. Not only because she's a girl, but also I'm a little more chill in my older retire. You know what I'm saying? My 3940s. I'm a little more chill now, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_00: 15:06

I ain't got it in me. Give them that energy. Right. Ain't got the energy no more.

SPEAKER_01: 15:11

I ain't got that no more. So yeah, I'm a little different. So, but to your, I'm just saying, to your testament. Yeah, bro. Like they're singing and they're watching it. Watching it.

SPEAKER_02: 15:18

Yep, yeah. Speaking of watching, man, that's good advice too. They watching everything. And hey, they're gonna tell.

SPEAKER_01: 15:24

Yep, yeah, yep.

SPEAKER_02: 15:25

So if you ever think you're gonna have multiple kids and go out somewhere and do something that your significant other's not gonna like and it's not gonna get back. Oh, yeah, they should be. I don't care how much you bribe them with money, food, snacks, candy, they telling as soon as they get home. They snitching. Um, but other than that, like just watch what you say around them, watch your energy around them. Yeah. If you can avoid arguing in front of them, yeah, that's big. That's big. That's big because that causes a lot of trauma. Yeah. It causes a lot of times they'll internalize that and think that they did something wrong. But sometimes arguments happen. Spur the moment, right? But you can still change the way it ends. Yeah. So they they might see it start, they need to see the way it ends too. In a healthy, in a healthy way. The help in a healthy way, right, in a good way. So that they know that this is how adults are supposed to disagree. I agree with that and still move forward.

SPEAKER_00: 16:19

That that even leads me to two other points. Like, I gotta say this. I don't think it's just me either. Kids are manipulative. Very, very. They know, like you said, they're paying attention, they know how to use the father against the mother and vice versa. So you gotta pay attention to that. And I don't think it's just subconscious. I mean, I think it's subconsciously, but I don't think they want to sabotage a relationship. But at the end of the day, they're selfish. They're very selfish. They're trying to figure out how to get whatever they want at all costs, you know what I'm saying? All the time. And that's something you gotta pay attention to. But even on top of that, point number two, I was just thinking, another reason you gotta watch what you're doing is because subconsciously, they're gonna become whatever you exhibit. You know what I mean? Like those kids are gonna become that. My son is crazy at so many idiosyncrasies and things that he does. I'm like, ain't no way you learn that from anywhere. Right. Following me. Yeah. And the same thing with my daughter. Like, she's three years old. My three-year-old daughter like regurgitates stuff I say, and it's like, dang, I hope. Yeah, my wife don't realize where she got it from. Yeah, where she got it from. And it's not just cussing, cursing and stuff like that. It's just phrases and stuff I'll say, and it's like, dang, she was really watching. She was listening. She was listening. Yeah, we gotta watch what we do around these kids.

SPEAKER_02: 17:39

Nah, my son is my clone, literally.

SPEAKER_00: 17:41

Yeah, he looks like you, looks like you, he talks like me, he acts like me. Got that smart mouth.

SPEAKER_02: 17:47

Man, quick, very witty. Um he's you. But but but I'm just the more wiser, yeah, obviously, of the both of us. And I'm trying to get him to use those as talents. Yeah, like being witty is a talent. Everybody can't be witty. Yeah, yeah. But you can use that in a positive way. It doesn't mean you have to like piss people off. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_00: 18:10

So I'm trying to be a jerk. You don't have to be a jerk, right? Yeah. So you think automatically with your your kids, it's just uh because of you that they really got into sports, or was it the people you brought them around too?

SPEAKER_01: 18:22

I think I think it was a little bit of both, right? Like me, yeah, with my older son, and everybody's talking about my son Chase, because he was so good, like, you know, he was really good. He still is, college basketball player. But I only found out he was good because I was working with his older brother. And he would just be there, like literally. Like I wasn't working with him. And then one day I looked down, the dude was like four years old, putting the ball behind his back, between his legs. So I was like, yo, this dude might be better than these dudes down here. So I brought him down there, and he can do the same thing that everybody else can do. And I just kind of found out from there. And it kind of trickled down. When I started working with Chase, then Preston was in the gym. Then Preston, Carrie was in it, so it just kind of just like a trickle-down effect. And most of them, like, all my kids, like, I don't force nothing on them.

SPEAKER_02: 19:05

Yeah, I was just gonna ask you that. Do they do they want to play?

SPEAKER_01: 19:08

Yeah, that's on them. Okay. I ain't like once they stop wanting to play football, I'm cool. Like, I can't play football no more. That's better for me. Exactly. I can get my Saturday mornings back. Exactly. I get my I get that$400 uh sign-up fee back. So I'm cool with it. So everything that they do is on their own will. I'm just I'm just there to be kind of like a chauffeur. Yeah, if you may say. Like, hey, look, this is where you want to go, this is where you need to be, I'm gonna help take you there. Yeah, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_00: 19:32

Yeah, and say, I had to bite my tongue on something like that, because I I took my son, got him started out in baseball. Yeah. And when I tell you, do it was automatic, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, but it was the people around him, his friends, some of his family, they push basketball on him. Like it was nothing. And I'm sitting here like, I'm watching you in practice, I'm watching you in games, like baseball is nothing. Like it comes so easy to you. But he saw everybody else, he even people telling him, Oh, your dad played basketball. I want to be like, Your dad won't hit you play some street ball, but organize all that. Yeah, I couldn't even get with that.

SPEAKER_01: 20:06

But yo, like a bit people around you. But is that a like a black community type thing? Like basketball, basketball, basketball. You know what I'm saying? Basketball, football is that like in a black community. And it's funny. I think that's like sad. Yes. Baseball's where it's at. Like money-wise, where it's at.

SPEAKER_00: 20:21

I play baseball, soccer, golf. Yeah, golf. You get big time scholarships, man. Man, I wish they would pay more attention to that. Like those those are the things you need to be doing. Yeah. But fathers, we out here talking to y'all. Like, we gotta push y'all to do better when it comes to broadening horizons. Exposing us.

SPEAKER_02: 20:38

Exposing us to more, man.

SPEAKER_03: 20:39

Yep.

SPEAKER_00: 20:40

It's so much more out there.

SPEAKER_02: 20:41

I mean. And we're speaking from not charging you with that necessarily. We speaking from our experience and want to help people maybe do a little better than maybe we did. So man, definitely look outside of the box of basketball and football.

SPEAKER_01: 20:58

And we got it, and we'll talk about it on another episode. But yeah, like that's like a good, like I'm glad we hit that. Because, you know, that's like, I mean, it's big. Like, that's that's a big thing. Like, sports is like almost like taking over the world. Like youth sports is almost taking over the world. So that's like a big, a real big hit for me. Right, right, right.

SPEAKER_00: 21:16

But I hope, man, I hope, you know, I hope we get some people, we're gonna start making it where people can call in. Yeah. And write us on YouTube and everything. What's some stuff y'all were told like early on that just turned out to not be true? Like, what's some lessons you learned? What's some advice you have? We still need advice. We still learn. We still got some young young kids. We're still raising them 20-something years old. Like, they're still our children. They still act like children. They still act like children. Yeah, my. Mine takes me today. Like my 24.

SPEAKER_01: 21:46

I need to talk to you later on, so I can I need some advice on how to, on my situation. So, you know, they always especially if you raise them right and you they know you know you're there for them. They're gonna always come back. They're gonna always, when he doesn't need somewhere to stay, he know where to come.

SPEAKER_02: 21:59

And we we complain about it, but at the same time, it do feel good. You know, you're gonna complain. You gonna complain, but when you get that tip, you rather them come to you. Yes, that's it. That's it. Because when they come to you now, it kind of gets together.

SPEAKER_01: 22:13

And then you know they ain't they ain't doing nothing outside something they shouldn't be doing. I'd rather them talk to me than a lot of other people. You feel me?

SPEAKER_00: 22:19

So I mean So what dad tip you got? You got one for today? I got a dad tip. You got a dad tip? I got a dad tip.

SPEAKER_01: 22:26

You surprised me last you surprise me every episode. I I'm just what you got? All right, dad tip for this episode.

SPEAKER_02: 22:32

Okay. We're all here. We're here, we're listening. Your kid may look like you, uh, may sound like you, uh, he may act like you. Okay. Same mannerisms, but he is not you. Okay. What I mean by that is your kid have their own journey. Yeah. See, a lot of times we like to live vicariously through our kids. We want them to do exactly what we want them to do. Yeah. If we missed out on law school, we want them to be a lawyer. If we missed out on medical school, we want them to be a doctor. Yep. You should just want your kid to be happy. Yeah. Yeah. That's it. That's for sure. And help them on their own journey. That's my dad's tip. Good tip. Hey, good tip. I like that. I like that.

SPEAKER_00: 23:13

Now, if I may, can I add one other thing? Go ahead. Yeah, yeah. Dad's spotlight.

unknown: 23:17

Okay.

SPEAKER_00: 23:17

We had a dad. Yeah, we had dad on the last one. I hope we can do this when we don't have dad guests. Uh, you know, people come on. Absolutely. I want to do this spotlight on my guy. Oh, yeah, we got to put him on, but we're gonna put his information on our page. My guy, Lance Flint. Okay. So I ran into this brother. He went to Maze, grew up with me. Remember Lance? Yep. Maze High? We we were at my Jeep dealership or something like that. And we were at the dealership and we just talking, and we got to just talking about being a dad. He's saying, Hey, I see what you're doing, all the kids. And he hit me with this. He said, I lost my wife eight years ago. Wow. And he'd been raising his kids on his own. Wow. Wow. And just this look on his face, like you never knew nothing was gonna. I never knew anything. Yeah. But the way he was so calm and collective and just excited about being a single dad, like he would rather his wife be there. But he's getting to see every step with his kids. It was so impressive, man. And I hope that as we grow, as we keep going, we highlight these guys and we're gonna do something for you guys. We're gonna reach out to them. Absolutely. So I really had to call out and say, Lance, we see you. See you. We respect you. You got love. We love you. You got love from us. Absolutely. And we're gonna go to back. We're doing this, doing things like this for people like you. Absolutely. So Lance, much love, brother.

SPEAKER_02: 24:40

Yes, sir. Oh yeah, man. I got a t-shirt coming. Ain't no manual t-shirt. I'm gonna send you a t-shirt. We're gonna send a t-shirt to everybody that we highlight. Um, and then you know, we get bigger, we can send some send some more things.

SPEAKER_01: 24:53

We'll see. Once your check gets bigger, we'll start taking it out of the channel. Yeah, once your check gets bigger, start docking packing. Nobody over.

SPEAKER_00: 25:00

Um, yeah, but I think we can wrap that up, man. This was a good episode. We had some fun. We talked about what we're learning. We want you all to send us some advice you have, some of the things you learned that weren't true. Yeah. Back in the day, ain't no manual. Ain't no manual. Oh, hey, follow us. Like, we got everything, right? Follow us, it'll be on the screen and all that good stuff. Just follow us on our platform, support us. Tap in. We're doing this for not only the fathers, we're doing this for everybody. Everybody. Just hearing it from some fathers, but we're doing it for everybody. So tap in with us. Yeah, be a beacon. And that's our episode for today. I had a great time with you guys as always. Hey, man. We're talking life. We're talking fatherhood. We're talking just the whole family dynamic, and I'm enjoying every moment. So we want y'all to be back. Please follow us on every episode. Everything. Everything we got. I'll be back. Ain't no manual to this, but we're doing our thing.

SPEAKER_01: 25:55

Yep. Hey, ain't no manual. We out.